One in four COVID deaths has left a young person without a parent or primary caregiver. That’s according to a new study published in the journal, Pediatrics. Surviving parents and other caregivers are often overwhelmed when trying to navigate how to help the young people in their lives process grief. Here are some ways to help facilitate the journey toward healing.
One in four COVID deaths has left a young person without a parent or primary caregiver. That’s according to a new study published in the journal, Pediatrics. In the study’s key findings, researchers report that:
These are harrowing statistics, especially in the face of the collective trauma that has accumulated on a global scale due to the ongoing fear, lack of control, sickness, death, and loss of normalcy as a result of the pandemic. For children and teens in particular, the social isolation of the pandemic has only exacerbated mental health issues, including the serious trauma of losing a parent or caregiver. According to
Authors of the study concluded that children losing caregivers to COVID-19 need care and safe, stable, and nurturing families with economic support, quality childcare and evidence-based parenting support programs. According to the National Child Traumatic Stress Network, young people and their families are more susceptible to the effects of traumatic stress and grief. In a briefing on the compounded trauma of COVID, NCTSN writes:
“Transition-age youth who have experienced trauma face multiple challenges. These may include living arrangements that feel unsafe; a lack of privacy to participate in telehealth visits; housing and food insecurity; difficulty accessing unemployment, food stamps, and other benefits due to the complexity of application processes; lack of technology access and supports to continue higher education following the transition to remote learning; and loss of contact with social supports, including former teachers, mentors, and mental health providers.”
Young people and their families who are dealing with COVID-related trauma and loss face unique challenges on top of the already difficult process of grieving. For many families throughout the pandemic, the ability to gather and grieve collectively at a funeral, wake, or shiva has been impossible due to social distancing measures. Families may have been unable to spend time with their loved one in person before they died, which can create a lack of final closure. Some people report feeling survivor’s guilt when they lose someone to the virus––”Why didn’t I get sick too?” Prolonged grief is spiking among people who have experienced the death of a loved one over the past year and a half.
On top of these hurdles toward healing, preexisting mental health conditions are typically exacerbated by death and grieving. Depression, anxiety, PTSD, and substance abuse disorders can all be intensely triggered by the loss of a loved one. This is especially true for teens and young adults, who often need help in processing and expressing their emotions during times of intense transition. So what can parents, families, and other support networks do to help ease the grieving process for the young people in their lives?
“The most important things to do are pay attention and communicate,” said Dr. Caroline Fenkel, Charlie Health’s Chief Clinical Officer. “Grief can make symptoms of mental health issues worse, such as insomnia, sadness, fear, changes in appetite...you name it. But grief is a normal and healthy process that––when handled with care––can turn out to be an immensely healing and cathartic experience.”
Here are some suggestions and strategies on how to navigate grief for yourself and others, create a safe space for the healing process, and work together as a family or community to support one another:
If you or a loved one does think it’s time for a higher level of care, group therapy is a highly effective way to address trauma and grief. And when group therapy is available virtually––as it is at Charlie Health––the effects of social isolation can be minimized as well. The ability to connect with people who are going through the same processes, experiencing the same emotions, or who have faced similar losses is inherently healing. It helps people feel seen, heard, and held. Group therapy at Charlie Health also helps teach young people and their families how to communicate emotions, regulate them, and make conscious decisions about how to make healthy decisions in response to them. This DBT-skills style of group therapy, among other group therapy modalities, is at the core of what we do at Charlie Health.
We’re here to support you and your family through these challenging times. Our goal is to help as many people as possible reach their healing milestones, achieve sustainable recovery, and to live the best versions of their lives within the best versions of themselves. Contact us today if you’re struggling and want to learn more about our virtual mental health treatment plans.