Toxic positivity refers to the idea that in any given circumstance the most appropriate course of action is to remain positive, “look on the bright side,” and understand that “it could be worse.” An optimistic perspective can be a healthy and effective coping mechanism; however, toxic positivity refers to the extreme, unwavering presence of positivity in which this attitude causes a failure to effectively process and validate emotions.
Toxic positivity refers to the idea that in any given circumstance the most appropriate course of action is to remain positive, “look on the bright side,” and understand that “it could be worse.” An optimistic perspective can be a healthy and effective coping mechanism; however, toxic positivity refers to the extreme, unwavering presence of positivity in which this attitude causes a failure to effectively process and validate emotions.
Whereas healthy optimism seeks to motivate and inspire individuals to be their best selves, toxic positivity creates a false sense of reality—that emotions aren’t meant to be felt and are inherently bad. Many times, individuals who engage in toxic positivity do so innocently, perhaps without realizing its effects on others.
It’s critical to normalize feeling emotions through validating others’ experiences. What may not seem like a stressful event in your life, may in fact challenge, provoke anxiety, or overwhelm someone else. Validating someone’s experience or taking the time to make them feel heard and acknowledged, allows for critical growth and respect among all kinds of relationships.
If you’ve engaged in toxic positivity, you’re not alone. For many of us, when we hear someone we care for struggling we interject with comments such as “just stay positive” or “don’t stress about it” to support and encourage them. In uncomfortable circumstances, it’s instinctive human behavior to avoid someone’s pain or brush it off. This dissociates us from having more difficult, vulnerable conversations. Showing empathy and allowing others to feel heard requires active choices and may not come naturally to everyone. You may not even realize you are exhibiting this behavior. It’s important to think critically about your words, and how you can support others through minimizing toxic positivity.
When individuals have experienced toxic positivity from others they tend to internalize and enforce it upon themselves. This causes individuals to hide their emotions, become overly stoic, or feel guilty about the challenges they are navigating. A lack of space and willingness to process emotions can lead to more severe mental health challenges.
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