The Long-Term Effects of Narcissistic Abuse

Learn how to recognize the signs and symptoms of narcissistic abuse and how to heal from this kind of emotional abuse.

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Narcissistic abuse, a type of emotional abuse inflicted by someone with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) or narcissistic traits, can fundamentally change a victim’s thoughts, feelings, and actions. People with NPD or narcissistic tendencies often lack empathy and use manipulation or emotional blackmail tactics—ranging from gaslighting to love bombing—to boost their self-esteem and meet their needs.

This manipulative and exploitative behavior can take a long-term toll on a victim’s well-being, resulting in emotional trauma, physical health concerns, and more (a constellation of symptoms referred to as narcissistic victim syndrome or narcissistic abuse syndrome). 

Keep reading to learn more about the long-term effects of narcissistic abuse and how to heal from this kind of emotional abuse.

5 long-term effects of narcissistic abuse

Narcissistic abuse can take on many forms, ranging from emotional and psychological abuse to financial and verbal abuse. 

All of these forms of abuse can have severe and lasting impacts on a victim’s mental, emotional, and physical well-being—symptoms that are part of narcissistic victim syndrome or narcissistic abuse syndrome. 

Below, five ways that narcissistic abuse takes a long-term toll on a victim’s mind and body. 

Low self-esteem 

Narcissistic abuse can have a profound and insidious impact on a person’s self-esteem. The constant barrage of narcissistic manipulation, criticism, and belittlement from a narcissistic person can gradually wear down the victim’s sense of self-worth. 

As the abuse continues, the victim may start to believe the hurtful things the narcissist says, feeling worthless and flawed. 

In the long term, a victim may fear making mistakes and doubt their abilities, which hampers their growth.

Low self-esteem 

Narcissistic abuse can have a profound and insidious impact on a person’s self-esteem. The constant barrage of narcissistic manipulation, criticism, and belittlement from a narcissistic person can gradually wear down the victim’s sense of self-worth. As the abuse continues, the victim may start to believe the hurtful things the narcissist says, feeling worthless and flawed. In the long term, a victim may fear making mistakes and doubt their abilities, which hampers their growth.

Relationship issues

Narcissistic abuse can significantly impact a victim’s ability to form and maintain healthy relationships. 

They might struggle to trust others, have trouble setting boundaries, and feel unsure of themselves because of the damaging effects of narcissistic abuse. 

This can cause long-term communication problems and lead to repeating unhealthy relationship patterns.

Mental health issues

Narcissistic abuse often causes emotional trauma, which can deeply affect a victim’s mental health over time. 

Like other forms of psychological abuse and emotional abuse, it can lead to anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder. 

Victims may also struggle with regulating emotions, leading to mood swings, anger outbursts, or emotional numbness as a result of these mental health issues.

Physical health problems

The mental health impacts of narcissistic abuse are also tied to long-term physical health problems for victims stemming from the well-researched mind-body connection. 

These emotions can lead to sleep disruptions, headaches, muscle tension, and stomach problems. 

In some instances, victims may also neglect their health, adopting unhealthy habits like poor diet and substance abuse to cope with the narcissistic abuse. 

Difficulty functioning

In more severe instances, the lasting effects of narcissistic abuse can make it hard for someone to manage daily tasks and enjoy life. 

They might struggle to keep a job because of feelings of inadequacy or anxiety from past abuse. 

It can also be tough for them to form and maintain healthy relationships and develop their identity, causing isolation and, in some instances, suicidal thoughts. 

If you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts or are in danger of harming yourself, this is a mental health emergency. Contact The Suicide & Crisis Lifeline 24/7 by calling or texting 988.

The long-term effects of childhood narcissistic abuse

While there are similarities in the long-term effects of narcissistic abuse across different types of relationships, narcissistic abuse within the parent-child relationship can have particularly profound and lasting implications for the child’s development and well-being.

A narcissistic parent (or another family member who is a caregiver) holds authority and influence over a child. Since children depend on their caregivers, they are particularly vulnerable to abuse from a narcissistic mother or father. 

Also, a narcissistic parent’s abusive or manipulative behavior can intensify a child’s feelings of helplessness and dependency.

Abuse by a narcissistic father or mother can also impair a child’s development of essential interpersonal skills, such as empathy and communication, making it challenging for them to form healthy relationships and navigate social interactions. 

Plus, growing up with a narcissistic caregiver or family member can disrupt a child’s attachment style, resulting in relational difficulties in adulthood and the development of an anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment style.

Signs of narcissistic abuse

The first step in healing from narcissistic abuse is acknowledging that it’s happening. Long-term narcissistic abuse, though, can make it hard for a person to identify or name their experience. 

Also, people with narcissistic tendencies are often manipulative and may twist reality to suit their needs, leading victims to feel like they deserve the emotional abuse or caused it themselves (which is not true). 

Below are common signs of narcissistic abuse to help victims identify and address narcissistic behavior.

Constant criticism

The narcissist constantly points out your flaws — how you look, speak, or behave — in ways that feel demeaning. Example: “You’re so sensitive. No one else would ever put up with you.” Even small mistakes turn into long lectures about how you’re a failure.

Emotional, financial, or social exploitation

They take from you — your time, energy, money, or connections — without giving anything back or showing appreciation. Example: They borrow money and never repay it or expect you to cancel plans to help them, yet disappear when you need support.

Lack of empathy

They don’t care how their actions affect you. Your pain or struggles are dismissed or mocked. Example: You open up about a bad day and they say, “Stop whining. You don’t know what real problems are.”

Manipulative behavior

They twist your words, guilt-trip you, or use the silent treatment to get their way. Example: After yelling at you, they say, “You made me do it. If you didn’t act so selfish, I wouldn’t have to be like this.”

Isolation from others

They slowly distance you from friends and family so you rely only on them for connection and validation. Example: “Your best friend is jealous of us. You shouldn’t hang out with her anymore.” Over time, you find yourself completely alone.

Frequent boundary violations

You set clear boundaries, and they ignore or mock them. They feel entitled to invade your privacy, space, or decisions. Example: You ask them not to read your messages — they do it anyway and say, “If you weren’t hiding anything, it wouldn’t matter.”

Blame-shifting and deflection

They never accept responsibility and always turn the tables. You end up apologizing for things they did. Example: They cheat, but blame you for “not being attentive enough” or “pushing them away.”

Emotional highs and lows (rollercoaster)

They alternate between affection and cruelty. One day they’re charming, the next they’re cold or explosive. For example, after a fight, they shower you with gifts or apologies, only to mistreat you again once things settle.

If these patterns are familiar to you, you may be the victim of an unhealthy narcissistic relationship. 

Remember: it’s never your fault if a narcissistic family member, narcissistic partner, or other narcissistic person in your life mistreats you. You deserve to be treated with respect—always. 

5 ways to heal from the long-term effects of narcissistic abuse

Healing from the long-term effects of narcissistic abuse requires time, effort, and support. After acknowledging that you have been a victim of narcissistic abuse and understanding that the effects you’re experiencing are valid trauma responses, there are other steps you can take to heal. Here are some steps that can help in the healing process:

• Seek therapy
• Set boundaries
• Practice self-care
• Build support networks
• Forgive yourself

Seek therapy

Consider therapy with a qualified mental health professional who has experience in treating trauma and narcissistic abuse. Therapy can provide a safe space to process your experiences, learn coping strategies, and work through any lingering trauma.

Set boundaries

Practice setting and enforcing healthy boundaries in your relationships (especially in a narcissistic relationship). Learning to say no and prioritizing your own needs is essential for rebuilding self-esteem and protecting yourself from further harm.

Practice self-care

Engage in activities that nurture your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. This can include exercise, meditation, spending time in nature, pursuing hobbies, and connecting with supportive friends and family members.

Build support networks

Surround yourself with understanding and supportive people who validate your experiences and provide encouragement. Basically, think of someone who you have a healthy relationship with and prioritize spending time with them. Joining support groups or online communities for survivors of narcissistic abuse can also be a chance to gain support and learn what developing a healthy relationship looks like.

Forgive yourself

Let go of any self-blame or shame you may be carrying and forgive yourself for any perceived mistakes or shortcomings. Remember that you were not responsible for the abuse inflicted upon you—narcissistic abuse is the responsibility of narcissists or people with narcissistic tendencies. 

Healing from narcissistic abuse starts here 

If you’re experiencing anxiety, people-pleasing, self-doubt, or emotional burnout, these could be the long-term effects of narcissistic abuse. You’re not alone, and healing is within reach.

At Charlie Health, we provide compassionate, trauma-informed care tailored for people healing from narcissistic abuse and complex emotional trauma.

Our fully virtual Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP) combines individual therapy, family support, and group sessions so you can start healing in a safe, structured environment.

With Charlie Health, you’ll receive:

• A trauma-trained therapist matched to your unique needs and history
• A peer support group that understands what you’re going through
• Evidence-based tools to rebuild confidence, set boundaries, and regain emotional clarity

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